By Tracey Cox for MailOnline. Men are often the ones who stop wanting sex in long-term relationships, says sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox. Indeed, UK counselling service Relate reported a 40 per cent increase from the previous decade in the number of men claiming to have gone off sex. Scroll down for video. Contrary to popular opinion that has the wife turning to face the wall 'with a headache', its often the man who decides to stop having sex in long-term relationships.
My Partner Doesn't Want To Have Sex Anymore
Why Doesn’t He Want to Have Sex? Answers from a Sex Therapist
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. We love each other and get on amazingly well. In the day he can be all over me, hugging and kissing me, holding my hand, saying how pretty I look and how attractive he thinks I am. This is all very well but I wish he'd show it in the bedroom! When we do have sex usually initiated by myself he finds it difficult to have an erection for more than ten minutes. I feel this is the root of the problem and is why he doesn't initiate sex with me. We've spoken about this many times trying to get to the root of the problem but with no luck!
What to do if your partner doesn't want to have sex
After our first date, I invited him back to my place, where I had every intention of having sex with him. We started making out and it was lovely. When the momentum stalled, I tried to get it on track by asking if he had a condom.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to tips bustle. Not turned on by me anymore?